Buddhist Teaching, The Essence

"Sabba papassa akaranam
Kusalassa upasampada
Sacitta pariyodapanam
Etham Buddhanasasanam"
To abstain from all evil
To cultivate the good
To purify one's mind
This is the teaching of the Buddhas

Jangan berbuat jahat
Perbanyak kebajikan
Sucikan hati dan pikiran
Itulah inti sari ajaran Buddha

Faith: accept and let go off

keywords: acceptance, power, force, grateful

Things which are meant to be for us will surely come to us. It’s a matter of time. Just be patient to wait for the right time!
Every time I had difficulty I always pray to get inspiration to solve the problem. Lately, it seemed that all answers to my pray have been provided through books. The books came out to me in various ways: through recommendation from my friends; through recommendation which came out from a stranger out of nowhere; through sudden intention to take a specific book when I browse in a bookstore.

When giving suggestion to my friends who have similar problematic situation that I had, very often I recommend them to read one particular book which, I think, seem to be appropriate to solve their problem. Yet, very often the book doesn’t suit them in term of its philosophy or overall content. And very often I heard most comment from them is that they can’t understand the main messages from the book even though they have read it over and over.

That is why I truly believe that things which are meant to be for us will surely come to us; on the contrary, things which are not meant to be, we won’t get it, we won’t understand it. For other persons with similar problem like what we had, maybe the universe has prepared another way to overcome their problem to make them able to draw the life lesson over such situation. We can help by sharing our experience in dealing with the same situation, but again, sometimes it may help to one person, sometimes it doesn’t work at all. One thing for sure, they will find the best way to overcome such situation. And the way out to the same problematic situation can be unique to every person.

Holding to that philosophy, now I can face everything with more acceptances. I realize when the thing I want can not be achieved, or the thing doesn’t work as I plan or aim for, I simply think that maybe it’s not meant to be for me at this time. Thus I have to work harder, I have to introspect and improve myself, and most importantly I have to let go off any negative thoughts for not meeting the expected target at this time. Maybe later, I deserve something better than before, something that’s meant to be best for me in the right time.

Previously, I realize that I used to apply force instead of power to get something. When we apply force, it has “tension of the opposites” (I borrow this term from Mitch Albom’s Tuesday with Morrie, as this is explained well about why we should use power instead of force). Imagine when you push a spring from its balance; you will get contraction and expansion. That is what happens when we use force. When I targeted on something with constant force, yes I can achieve the goal. But it takes most of my energy. Furthermore, it is also very exhausting to maintain what we get for using force.

Power on the other hand, encompasses everything. It doesn’t consume our energy, it recharges our energy instead. We can use power only when we are in line with our heart and in fully acceptance to the situation at any moment we live our lives. Initially, I felt a bit difficult to accept some situation in my daily basis. But when I can align with it, everything suddenly seems to unfold for me so easily. I am grateful to know this universal secret that we should work with power. Now even small things works perfectly for me as long as I’m in line with any situation in my present moment.

I still need to practice acceptance to any situation in my present moment. Sometimes, I still complain for unwanted situation I must face. Sometimes, I use force to deal with it. But then I realize, when something hectic happens, it alerts me to go in line again with my present moment, and not to use force to agitate the balance, the yin yang of the universe.

I thank all respective authors for all precious books.

References:
Power vs. Force (David R. Hawkins)
Tuesday with Morrie (Mitch Albom)

Dear Friend, Life Must Go On

It’s always good to hang out and get together with friends. As we’re getting along with our friends, we must still keep focusing on what we want to achieve in our life. While each of our friends has different goals in their life, we must also focus on ours, otherwise we will be left behind in our life.

Our friends one day may leave us to reach their dream, or it could be the other way around. It is such a common phenomenon in life. Have you ever thought about your old friends in elementary school, high school, or university? Where are they now? ... Yes, it is great if we still meet up or keep in touch with them. But some might have been disappeared from our radar. And again, that is just perfectly normal. They have to continue their life journey, and so do we.

Often I found very good friends in different places. But after some period of interaction, it is time to say good bye again. I’m not regretting that. To have such a high-quality friendship is a precious gift in this world. It’s a matter of whether we can deal with the sudden change of a situation where we have less and less time to interact with our friends. After all, true friends will always be close to our heart although they are separated thousand miles away from us.

The wise saying tells us that we should not have too much attachment to our friends in many respects. Indeed, experiences teach me that too much attachment to our close friends eventually causes more emotional pain when thing doesn’t work as what we expect. Unless, you are spiritually awakened enough to control your emotion, or in other words to say, you are free from attachment, that would be great! However, most people suffer “gloomy” period due to this emotional pain. It may take one week, a month, or even longer to dissolve such feeling.

“You may not know that you’re attached to something until you lose it or there is the threat of loss” (Tolle, 2005: A New Earth)

My colleague, Y. Apriliansyah, gave me a very good advice on how not to be overly attached to our fellow friends. Follows are the paraphrase on what he said: Attachment is caused by strong emotional bound, i.e. love, implicitly. Therefore, we must prioritize the distribution of our love. The first two highest priorities are to our Creator and to our parents (My comment: Most Indonesian believes that God is supposed to be the 1st priority to love then followed by our parents, but in India is the other way around. Despite different reasons in each country, both still agree that God and parents are the first two highest priorities to love. This is typical in most Eastern countries). Then we can dedicate our love to our spouse or sibling. Apparently, friends are relatively the last priority to love. The closest our bound with someone will be the more painful we suffer when we break up. In that case, only by shifting our love to the higher priorities we can dissolve such emotional pain.

My very personal suggestion is to be grateful always for those who still have good friends around. Be communicative and open to your good friends to avoid any misunderstanding. And ideally, we should not have overly attachment and too much dependency towards our friends, then we can enjoy our friendship without any prejudice, jealousy, and other kind of negative attitude.

So in this chance, I’d like to say to all my dearest friends: I’m sorry for my negative thoughts that have caused any problem and misunderstanding between you and I; Please forgive me; I love you; Thank you for being my friends and becoming part of my life (Ho'oponopono Teaching).

Many thanks to Mr. Thayalan and Yudi Apriliansyah

Mindset: How Can I Do More?

"Can I do that?" That sounds doubting our own capability; "How can I do better?" This is a more positive attitude.
I believe that in any life situation, we surely can do things to improve our lives. However, some people complain that most often they always run out of time to do their daily tasks, hence no more time to do other things that might enhance their life quality. In the end, they always say that their life situation is not as ideal as what they expect.

It’s very common to hear statement like “I wish I have more time to do that”, “I wish I could do more to get additional income”, “I wish I can cram that activity into my schedule”, etc. As a matter of fact, sure we can manage everything in a defined period. There is no time limitation as an excuse. Any life situation is certainly manageable. It’s all about whether or not a person knows how to manage it and really wants to do so.

The best way to manage our life is to get rid any inefficiency in our daily routine. Indeed, everyone has capability to live their life efficiently. Unfortunately, people tend to underestimate their own capacity to overcome such condition. I believe it is simply just a mindset problem. They accuse that their daily routine has killed most of their time.

A typical common example of a life situation is when your boss assigns you for a new task. The first reaction could be excited, nervous, doubtful, not confident, or mix between them. That’s still normal response. Yet, some people might feel stress or under pressure as they take it as more burdens to bear.

But lets we take a look at it through rose-tinted glasses. Would that be a big chance to get more precious experience? The boss might have considered several candidates, but then you’re the one who has been chosen and entrusted to perform the task.

In some case people are urged by their life situation to do more additional works to support their life. They still can manage it eventually. The key to success in managing more works is simply doing better time management, thus allocating time more efficiently within our daily routine.

Another point to bear in mind is to keep positive mindset: We can do anything as long as we put extra effort physically and mentally. Never ever give up! That is the moral value.

“How much we can do depends on how much we think we can do” (Schwartz, 1979: The Magic of Thinking Big)

Aris, our friend, can’t move his left hand after having an accident. Yet, he does not give up doing his normal activity even with one hand paralyzed. Playing pool is one of his hobby. He develops a technique to strike the ball with one hand. Now, he plays as great as other two-handed pro pool players. He enjoys his hobby till now. I really admire his inspiring spirit!!!

The Greatest Blessing

It was typical for me not to tell my family, close friends, or anyone about my big project before I reach my final goal. Good though, to some extent! Despite the high pressure I had when dealing with the task, I learn to be strong to stand up on my own feet, and not to depend on other people, an absolute single fighter very often!

The moment I announce that I have achieved my ultimate goal, that would the most euphoric climax for me. I love to surprise my family and my close friends. I really enjoy that moment with all joy and excitement!

However, it's not easy to accomplish every single task. It requires big effort and wouldn’t be as easy as snapping finger. Perhaps I just realized that every task I do will run more smoothly when I ask my mum for her blessing. I believe that mother’s blessing to her children is absolutely powerful in any situation. So every time I have chance to tell my mum about my tasks, I’ll ask for her special blessing.

Mood Booster

We’ll never know what will come to us in the next couple second: news, occurrence, etc. It could be something good or bad. Those things can influence our mood significantly. Good thing is good for us. But bad things can affect us worse and worse. Bad things in the beginning of the day can really spoil the whole day. Bad mood EMITS negative vibration. Be aware of it!

That’s why it is important to identify something that can turn our mood better. People call it as mood booster. Mood booster has a significant role in controlling our energy. Mood booster could be things that make you relaxed, happy, warm-hearted, smile, laugh, peaceful, and other kind of good feeling. It could be memories, music, sport, hobby, pets, foods, nature, and many more. Different individuals have different choice of mood boosters. Environment is also a very influential factor in applying which mood booster is the most effective to use in a particular situation.

For me, I notice several mood boosters in different stages of my life:

Kindergarten: going to the beach swimming with my family, walking to explore the block around my house
Elementary school: get together with my musician friends
High school: sitting on a quiet beach enjoying my self alone looking at the horizon
University in Indonesia: going to China town for shopping and eating, praying in the old temple
University in Australia: going to the Strand and Sunday market, cooking, salsa night, going for trips
Working in Tuban: talking for hours on the phone to my close friends, reading self-management books accompanied with relaxing music, and for sure, playing tennis!

Doing some exercise might also release mental pressure, uneasy feeling due to stress, and all sort of negative energy, hence improving our mood. When I wake up in the morning, if my mind is drawn into too much worry, then I just push my self to jog, get sweat, and release all tension. After that, I feel much fresher and stop thinking such unnecessary worry. To relieve stress from work, I play ping pong, tennis, or practice taichi. It does help me to get out from such depressing situation.

However, like I said before, we’ll never know what will come to us in the next second. When something suddenly comes and makes us feel bad, then we need an instant mood booster. What I normally do when I face such situation is talk to my best friend. A suggestion from them on how to overcome the problem would be very helpful and such a precious gift. Nevertheless, that they are being available to listen to me is already an enormous blessing.

Another instant mood booster of mine is listening to music. I have prepared a bunch of good music in my mp3 player. They’re all the cheerful, funny, soft, relaxing ones. No hurt feeling, disappointment, nor broken heart kind of song; It’s all with positive lyrics. I just set my mp3 player on and simply enjoy it. It makes my mood better at anytime. So, find out what will your mood booster be :-)

Recently I read a book called "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. He proposes that only with the Power of Now we can gain our liberation from any unconscious thought that causes our negative feeling. To access the Power of now is basically to be fully aware on the present moment by observing our breathing or emotion. Simply just observe, be a silent observer.

I have been practicing the Power of Now and I’m in progress to get more familiar about it. Like the author said, keep practice until it is rooted into your habit then you can start to experience the joy of this power. Hmmm, I am inspired to write another essay regarding this technique.

Good Friends

I wish that my life could always be surrounded with my best friends. Well, this is just my ideal thought. Yet, I still realize that there’s nothing perfectly ideal as what I expect in this real world.

I’ve been thinking about this since the past couple weeks of my stay in Tuban. At least, what it’s in my mind may explain why dealing with people in the working place seems to be tougher than at school.

It’s simply because at school, I just interacted with someone whom I’d considered to be good to be my friend, and the rest, I wasn’t really bothered. But in the working place, I have no choice to interact with every staff within a shared space, eventhough I don’t like the person.

The funny thing is that my first impression about someone is used to be wrong. I thought…hmm… this person can not be my friend, but in the end we’re such a close friend. Or the other way round, in the beginning we were too pushy to became a good friend, but then after all, we just became “hi and passing by” friend.

No one to blame; it just goes with time and natural selection

A and B are two individuals who just come into a new place. They haven’t had friends yet. Then A and B start to get to know each other, often have chitchat, then decide to do something together. After sometimes, they know that they don’t have similar preferences. Then as time goes by, each of them has their new friends; eventually A hangs out more with A’s new friends, B also enjoys more to be with B’s new friends. Sometimes, if by chance A meets B, then they just say hi, talk only one or two sentences, then… ok, see you, I gtg now. They don’t seem to be bothered with that changing, both of them realize on that, and they are just ok, as they know that this situation is better for both of them...

Airport

My memory suddenly takes me back to Bali airport long long time ago. Indeed, I have a deep scratch in my memory about that airport. A memory back to the time when I was very little, even just before my brother was born.

Lili was my favorite aunty. She always accompanied me to play at home. I really liked her. She’s very pretty. She used to give me chocolates, cheese, toys, and other knick knack. She used to visit our family in OZ. So when she left, I felt like losing my good friend to play with, even I still remember how sad I was when she was not around. That’s why I used to be extremely excited to wait for her in the airport when she got back.

Once, she was going to go to OZ again, my dad, mum, and I went to the airport together with her to wish her a safe trip. At that time, Bali airport had public access, not exclusively for the one who had a ticket. So, we can get in to the second floor and sat down on the terrace. From there, I can see my aunty walking toward the plane. I screamed out loud calling her name. She saw me and gave me a good bye gesture, I replied it excitedly. When her plane took off, I was still screaming “good bye aunty…good bye aunty…”

Then it became like a regular activity to me, to ask my dad to go to the airport just to see the plane taking off, and as usual, I still screamed “good bye aunty… good bye aunty…” eventhough that was not her plane. Sounds silly, but that’s the feeling of the little me missing her.

Since then, I really loved to watch planes. I even remembered how I cried in private hearing the plane accident in the airport. I remember my dad and I went to the location to see the poor plane.

Couple years later, my aunty moved permanently to OZ. So, I really hoped that one day, my family can fly there together to visit her. But then we never made it, as she already passed away***

The beginning of 2004, it was my first time to fly to OZ as I got a grant to pursue my study there. My dad, mum, and brother took me to the airport, to wish me a good safe trip. Well, that was my last time I saw my dad, inside the international departure section. That was my last memory seeing him alive***

Recently I flew pretty often. There’s always an excitement being in different airports, expecting what the new life adventure will be outside the airport. Yeap… looking forward to new adventures from inside the airport, but also reminding me backward to the time I was in the airport for the person I love.

Friendship, relationship: Does it work?

When establishing a new friendship or relationship with someone, it may work but also may not. If it doesn’t work or becomes worse, do not too emotionally respond it! Once you have introspected yourself and believed that you have done nothing wrong, then NO need to try to be nice or to clarify anything. Don’t get too far on him/her. Maybe s/he is the one who has problem, for example an overly sensitive type of person. And to this kind of person, you really must keep distance!

In the worse situation, if s/he says something cynical to you, don’t take the bait; just don’t give a damn on what s/he has said.
Indeed it’s a good practice to develop compassion and patience. Any single cynical word you’ve heard, let’s hope it will bring satisfaction and happiness to the person who delivers those words. Then you’ll be able to smile freely and feel much better, meaning that your practice of compassion is successful.

Tuban, after a week of training

Working in a place together with Singaporean expatriates gave me some unusual experience, particularly to deal with their weird characteristic. No need to feel inferior. Take it easy, this is just the beginning of the real world. There will still be a dozen more characteristics of people that you’ll never expect out there. Just be cool, calm, and confident! Do smile if you don’t want to say something stupid that may worsen the situation; at this situation: Silence is Golden

Remember, stay low profile!!!
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The most difficult thing to learn in my working place:
Is not to learn the chemical reaction on hydrocarbon
Is not about making a monthly plan based on estimated material balance to maximize the gross margin
Not either is to understand the whole units applied to process crude oil into highly valuable xylene
But,…
It is how to deal with people with different characteristics, especially the weird one!!!
So, find out what the key is to deal with this!

A place where the end of sleepy ocean meets the clear azureus sky, fresh green trees grow among ease of the modern city; There I will start my friendship and build my own community; There will be the happiest place of mine to live in

脑子灵活一定要谦虚

谦虚的人脑子也要灵活

A Little Girl on the Bus in China

The bus has been clumped! There was only one seat near the spot where I was standing up, a woman with some stuff on her hand was going to take that seat. Suddenly, a little girl snatched the seat, then abruptly called her mother, "Mum, here, I got a seat here".

The woman just gave it up, and the little girl's mum was struggling to go through the clumped people, until she reached the place "booked" by the girl and sat down there with the girl on her lap.

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So, why did I feel a bit weird about this situation? She is just a little girl though, who wants to present her mum a place to seat, ... but by snatching a seat from a woman with a lots of thing on her hands??? Is this nice little girl wrong?

Well...well..., this is another chaotic situation in China, I must say, I hate this condition. It makes me think, it must be very difficult to all Chinese, especially to young generation, to realise the motto of Olympic 2008, "Jiang Wen Ming", to make China to be a better "civilized" country.

Salute to all young generation whom I saw giving their seats to the elderlies, to the pregnant woman, to the woman with her baby!!! To all parents in China, do teach your children to be more civilized then!!!

Earth is My Home

Anywhere I live, as long as I enjoy and feel comfortable there, that would be a place called home for me.
About 6 days I have stayed in my aunty's family in Beijing. Everyday I walked around Jianguomen, the diplomatic compound where my aunty lives, got back there after enjoying my whole day trip exploring each site of Beijing on my own. I must admit it that I enjoyed staying in this vicinity, not to mention the warm atmosphere in my aunty's house.
Thus, leaving Beijing, I felt a kind of "sad" feeling. Funny, I just stayed there not for long. I guess, leaving one place, no matter how long you have stayed there, there must be this kind of "uncomfortable" feeling. Eventhough I have dealt with this several times, yet I expect that I can deal with this better and better. I supposed to get used to with it though, leaving one place where It has been part of my soul already.
To be honest, I don't really like this kind of feeling, neither does anyone I believe. At the present time, I am also worrying to deal with such feeling for leaving Dalian in the next couple days. I have to leave my friends, my new community that I have built since the beginning I came. Come what may, life must go on. Hence, what I need to do now is to enjoy the rest of my time as good as possible, time with good quality to spend with my friends here in Dalian.
Being an adventure-lover, moving into a completely strange new place, will be an exciting experience. There you have to start making friends, selecting people to be part of your community, doing socialisation...it's all so exciting. But from this point, there must be also a time to say good bye. Leaving your friends, leaving a place which you have considered home. Anyway, this "uncomfortable" feeling, soon or later, will be over, I hope.
Some thoughts of mine: Anywhere you go, try to make it as comfortable as you can. Expand your friendship, build your community, so you can enjoy living in one new place, as any place on this earth is our beautiful home.

My cell phone, can I turn it on now?

Preparing to take off, a guy around 20ieth I guess, was sitting beside me. He asked me whether or not the cell phone must be turned off. I said. you must turn it off. As my spoken Chinese was not good enough to explain how the phone signal may interrupt the navigation system, I just told him with a very simple Chinese politely. He got my point though. He eventually turned his phone off.

We started talking, from this point I knew that he came to Beijing to take a part in a car competition, now heading back to Dalian by plane because he can't get a ticket for the train due to peak season, just the same reason as mine. In a short pause, he suddenly made a comment, "Well, I think it's supposed to be OK now to turn on the phone as we have already taken off".... No, I said. I tried to explain that some plane accident might occur due to navigation failure because of signal disturbance caused by some forgetting to turn the phone off. Then, his response was just nodding his head while putting back his phone into the bag.

I was just wondering, what if there was a lot of people having the same thinking as his that turning on cell phones inside the plane was not a big deal. Hmm, good that he and I had a talk! The plane landed in Dalian Airport at 1 a.m.

Tuning Your Character to Compromise for A Better Life

We have to be wise to deal with anything in our life. We have to make a smart bargain, a good deal in any matter. I believe, compromise is one of the important key to have a better life. But, how far can we compromise?

Priority, situation, and condition are some reason for us to compromise. For example: X and Y are two generous persons. They like to help anyone who needs help. X is a too-generous person. X can easily give all his money without any consideration to someone who urgently needs a financial help. X simply thinks that giving his money to this person will lessen his burden. On the other hand, Y considers too many priorities in donating his money. Yet, Y is still keen to give donation to help others.

I notice that around us, there is quite a lot of generous people like X and Y. Here, I just want to suggest to all my friends:

1. whose personality type is like X; Too-generous type of person can often have a problem for him/her self, particularly in managing his/her own money. This type of persons need to be more careful in deciding what to do with their own money. Careful consideration on priority is necessary.
2. with Y type of person; Do not overly consider too much unnecessary details. It might discourage your good purpose to help the person who urgently needs your hands.

So, just have a 5 minutes to introspect your self,

• Which type of person are you? X or Y? too-generous? too much detail? perfectionist? selfish? never give any donation?
• After realising what type of person you are, try to tune your character! Not too much neglect on your own need, nor contrarily, too much unnecessary details to consider to do generous thing. Try to be as balance as possible.

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May everyone be well and happy. Let's tune our character!

Chinese Language: Screaming, Whining, or Too Expressive?

It might strongly be related to culture, the way of life, that Chinese language becomes so expressive. Simply one syllable from one Chinese character to describe one thing. But yes, each syllable has 1 out of 4 different tones. So, no wonder if you hear someone talking in Chinese, your first impression maybe:

• Chinese people love to scream out loud
• sometimes it sounds too whining

Yes, 4 different tones, especially the fourth tone (sharp accent), requiring more energy to pronounce it well. So, can you imagine when this language is used in a debate? sounds like screaming each other huh?(in China it does happens often). How about during a quarrel or scolding someone (mum to her kids!)?

Another thing, the combination of 4 different tones dramatises the situation like in a soap opera conversation. For example, when someone feeling hurt, they often express it in the following ways:

1. aiya, aiya ... teng, hen teng (ouchh, ouchhh .... hurt, very hurt)
2. aiya ... teng si wo le (ouchh ... hurt me till I die)

While in English, usually is enough with one expression "ouchh" . Therefore, to be so expressive using Chinese language, I must say, has been part of every Chinese, including Chinese descendant who was born in other country, no matter what language they speak, still you'll notice such a "screaming and whining" expression on their spoken language.

Now I can understand why, when my mum criticizing me, sounded very overwhelming. The way she talks is strongly affected by her mother tongue, the Chinese language. Now I am in China, almost anytime I heard a mother criticizing her naughty kids, it recalls my own memory, it is just the same as how my mum speaks. Maybe when I was kid I was not used to with it because I didn't grow up in such environment where every parents screaming out loud to their kid. At least, now I can understand why my parents were different from others in the way of criticizing me and my brother. Yes, the "Chinese Language Effect"... But, one thing I realise, is that any parent has the same purpose, to teach their children to be better and not to let their kids re-doing the same mistake.

My Family Reunion

I guess the setting was in the early of 1990ies. Not a beautiful place for a food court though, in contrast, the place looked like a parking area. But I remembered, My dad, mum, my bro and I just had finished our meals there. My dad was smiling, didn't speak anything, my mum was talking to someone about her relatives. Then after finishing our meals, I was teasing my brother about the meals we had. He was talk active when he was a little kid. My mum just laughed at us. We were walking away from that court. We're such a happy family!

Many thanks for the most short beautiful morning dream I just had, knowing that will never happen again. I love you all!

Unexplained Uncomfortable Feeling

There will be a situation where you feel completely uncomfortable for no particular reason, while you know you've done nothing wrong. I guess what you need to do is just to accept the situation, nothing else you can do. Karma does works!

Accepting such an uncomfortable situation might be very difficult. Again, just take it as the result of your karma. If that happens to me, well, just think and introspect:

• What's the main cause of this weird uncomfortable feeling? The cause might be a simple little problem. But don't underestimate it (Remember! Little problem can cause extreme impact: desperation, suicide, etc); So never underestimate them!). Initially, you have to find out what the main cause is that stimulates such uncomfortable situation/feeling
• Once you've identified the main problem, would that remind you whether you have done the same thing causing other people uncomfortable before.
• If that doesn't remind you anything, hope that makes you realise that you had done this to other people in your previous life time. (This makes you easier to accept such situation, as this is how karma works, or I should say, the beauty of karma)

Generally, when I experience this uncomfortable situation, the way I deal with it is by diverting my mind, by thinking good or favourite thing to do in the shortcoming period, for example: tomorrow my friends and I will cook lunch together, go to the beach, and so on (Thus, to have friends are very important!). No need to be so desperate! Eventually, you will be abble to accept this uncomfortable feeling (as the fruit of your karma) and at the same time, you will no longer be such a desperate person pitying yourself. It does works to me!

Another way is to develop positive thinking and don't make any prejudice. Sometimes, I put my self in his/her situation, why he/she did this to me? There must a be a "unique"reason why he/she made me angry for example. If you can't see what the reason is, then just have a little smile, tell your self that he/she just made a bad karma for him/her self.

But remember, keep your self cool-headed, do not make any bad karma again, for example: you've identified that apparently someone you are familiar with, was the one who made you feel uncomfortable. Then, don't plan any revenge on him/her. Don't let the karma cycle continously moving on you.

>>>May everyone be well and happy<<<

Today, I went to the zoo, Dalian Zoo. Taking a picture of this cute creature. Funny... was my first impression. Also inviting other people and me to smile watching his behaviour....

I've downloaded my picture into my laptop. Still got a funny impression to see this little friend, but something was catching my eyes... his eyes, seems to be cheerful and playful outside, but his gaze seems to keep lots of question; Where are my mum and dad? where is my home, a place with big green trees and shady leaves, a place for my better future? not this one, too many big creatures passing by, shouting and laughing at me. I need my freedom... I want to enjoy my present moment.