Wednesday, November 14, 2007

Good Friends

I wish that my life could always be surrounded with my best friends. Well, this is just my ideal thought. Yet, I still realize that there’s nothing perfectly ideal as what I expect in this real world.

friend

I’ve been thinking about this since the past couple weeks of my stay in Tuban. At least, what it’s in my mind may explain why dealing with people in the working place seems to be tougher than at school.

It’s simply because at school, I just interacted with someone whom I’d considered to be good to be my friend, and the rest, I wasn’t really bothered. But in the working place, I have no choice to interact with every staff within a shared space, eventhough I don’t like the person.

The funny thing is that my first impression about someone is used to be wrong. I thought…hmm… this person can not be my friend, but in the end we’re such a close friend. Or the other way round, in the beginning we were too pushy to became a good friend, but then after all, we just became “hi and passing by” friend.

No one to blame; it just goes with time and natural selection

A and B are two individuals who just come into a new place. They haven’t had friends yet. Then A and B start to get to know each other, often have chitchat, then decide to do something together. After sometimes, they know that they don’t have similar preferences. Then as time goes by, each of them has their new friends; eventually A hangs out more with A’s new friends, B also enjoys more to be with B’s new friends. Sometimes, if by chance A meets B, then they just say hi, talk only one or two sentences, then… ok, see you, I gtg now. They don’t seem to be bothered with that changing, both of them realize on that, and they are just ok, as they know that this situation is better for both of them...

吃海螺必须要小心

我以前写一篇文章关于“丰富的早餐”说我姨和我早上吃海螺之后感觉不舒服。我们觉得可能海螺对肚子太凉,所以肚子应该不可以太空。
最近,我告诉我的中国老师这件事儿。她说,海螺本来有毒。就是白色的一部分最近离它的孔,这部分就不应该吃的。吃了太多你就重毒了,所以感觉不舒服,头或者眼睛感觉很重。
总的说来,吃海螺时,注意白色的部分,别吃那部分。这样对身体比较安全。

海螺

Tuesday, November 13, 2007

Airport

My memory suddenly takes me back to Bali airport long long time ago. Indeed, I have a deep scratch in my memory about that airport. A memory back to the time when I was very little, even just before my brother was born.

Lili was my favorite aunty. She always accompanied me to play at home. I really liked her. She’s very pretty. She used to give me chocolates, cheese, toys, and other knick knack. She used to visit our family in OZ. So when she left, I felt like losing my good friend to play with, even I still remember how sad I was when she was not around. That’s why I used to be extremely excited to wait for her in the airport when she got back.

Once, she was going to go to OZ again, my dad, mum, and I went to the airport together with her to wish her a safe trip. At that time, Bali airport had public access, not exclusively for the one who had a ticket. So, we can get in to the second floor and sat down on the terrace. From there, I can see my aunty walking toward the plane. I screamed out loud calling her name. She saw me and gave me a good bye gesture, I replied it excitedly. When her plane took off, I was still screaming “good bye aunty…good bye aunty…”

Then it became like a regular activity to me, to ask my dad to go to the airport just to see the plane taking off, and as usual, I still screamed “good bye aunty… good bye aunty…” eventhough that was not her plane. Sounds silly, but that’s the feeling of the little me missing her.

Since then, I really loved to watch planes. I even remembered how I cried in private hearing the plane accident in the airport. I remember my dad and I went to the location to see the poor plane.

Couple years later, my aunty moved permanently to OZ. So, I really hoped that one day, my family can fly there together to visit her. But then we never made it, as she already passed away***

take off

The beginning of 2004, it was my first time to fly to OZ as I got a grant to pursue my study there. My dad, mum, and brother took me to the airport, to wish me a good safe trip. Well, that was my last time I saw my dad, inside the international departure section. That was my last memory seeing him alive***

Recently I flew pretty often. There’s always an excitement being in different airports, expecting what the new life adventure will be outside the airport. Yeap… looking forward to new adventures from inside the airport, but also reminding me backward to the time I was in the airport for the person I love.

Aweto, a parasitic fungi

Regarding my writing on Aweto, the winter insect summer herb (冬虫夏草), here I got further information about it.
aweto
It is actually a parasitic symbiosis between ascomycete fungi (species Cordyceps sinensis) and caterpillars, the host.

"When infected by C. sinensis, the bug's entire body cavity is filled by the fungus mycelium, killing the host, and the caterpillars die near the tops of their burrows." (wikipedia, 2007)

"When the caterpillar dies the fungus produces a stalked fruiting body that produces spores. The spores are spread in the wind to the next generation of caterpillars. Uninfected caterpillars pupate into relatively large primitive moths." (caterpillar fungus, 1998)

Thus, the infected host will definitely be dead. It is not a cyclic life stage as what I thought before. Since this fungi attacks hosts during summer, that’s why the Chinese called it “the winter worm summer grass” 冬虫夏草 (dōng chóng xià cǎo).

growing fungus on the host

Sunday, October 28, 2007

Friendship, relationship: Does it work?

When establishing a new friendship or relationship with someone, it may work but also may not. If it doesn’t work or becomes worse, do not too emotionally respond it! Once you have introspected yourself and believed that you have done nothing wrong, then NO need to try to be nice or to clarify anything. Don’t get too far on him/her. Maybe s/he is the one who has problem, for example an overly sensitive type of person. And to this kind of person, you really must keep distance!

In the worse situation, if s/he says something cynical to you, don’t take the bait; just don’t give a damn on what s/he has said.
Indeed it’s a good practice to develop compassion and patience. Any single cynical word you’ve heard, let’s hope it will bring satisfaction and happiness to the person who delivers those words. Then you’ll be able to smile freely and feel much better, meaning that your practice of compassion is successful.

Tuban, after a week of training

Working in a place together with Singaporean expatriates gave me some unusual experience, particularly to deal with their weird characteristic. No need to feel inferior. Take it easy, this is just the beginning of the real world. There will still be a dozen more characteristics of people that you’ll never expect out there. Just be cool, calm, and confident! Do smile if you don’t want to say something stupid that may worsen the situation; at this situation: Silence is Golden

Remember, stay low profile!!!
***
The most difficult thing to learn in my working place:
Is not to learn the chemical reaction on hydrocarbon
Is not about making a monthly plan based on estimated material balance to maximize the gross margin
Not either is to understand the whole units applied to process crude oil into highly valuable xylene
But,…
It is how to deal with people with different characteristics, especially the weird one!!!
So, find out what the key is to deal with this!

Tuban, East Java

Saturday, September 15, 2007

Philosophies of Chinese Horoscope

1. Mouse: skillful, proficient, smart
2. Cow: hard working, diligent, modest
To be skillful but not hard-working will be ineffective and useless. Hard working but no brain will also be easily exploited by other people.

3. Tiger: brave, powerful, mighty
4. Rabbit: cautious, prudent, wise
If the characteristic of tiger is too dominant then it will be recklessness. On the other hand, being overly cautious will lead to fear. Both characters balancing each other will be bold and cautious, hence unbeatable by enemies.

5. Dragon: firm, ferocious, competent
6. Snake: flexible, intellectual, intelligent
Too firm is easy to shatter, that’s why flexibility is necessary. In contrast, being flexible must also be accompanied by stricter mind.

7. Horse: ahead, forward, fast
8. Goat: calm, kind, warm-hearted
Becoming too fast and leaving others behind indicates selfishness; consequently it may fuel conflict among others. Kindness would counteract selfishness. However, kindness and calmness without high motivation also leads to a life without any goal, thus an unpromising future.

9. Monkey: vivacious, lively, efficacious
10. Chicken: consistent, honest, genuine
Vivaciousness and consistency may achieve any goal with a better result. Vivaciousness merely without constancy, or the other way round, won’t hit target as optimum as possible.

11. Dog: loyal, devoted, dedicated
12. Pig: easy going, laid-back, providential
The loyal dog and the easy going pig, these combined characters will attain inner balance among them. Inappropriate loyalty without tolerance will often be opposed by others. Too easy going type of person without devotion also often breaks the rule, hence a poor attitude.

Source: Yuankai
Thanks to Chris for the help

Thursday, September 13, 2007

The Complete Name of Chinese Zodiacs and Their Meaning

12 Chinese Zodiacs

精子鼠 (jīng zǐ shǔ); the smart mouse
憨丑牛 (hān chǒu niú); the modest cow
威寅虎 (wēi yín hǔ); the mighty tiger
慧卯兔 (huì mǎo tù); the wise rabbit
神辰龙 (shén chén lóng); the competent dragon
智巳蛇 (zhì sì shé); the intelligent snake
奔午马 (bēn wǔ mǎ); the fast horse
温未羊 (wēn wèi yáng); the warm-hearted goat
灵申猴 (líng shēn hóu); the vivacious monkey
信酉鸡 (xìn yǒu jī); the genuine chicken
忠戌狗 (zhōng xū gǒu); the loyal dog
福亥猪 (fú hài zhū); the providential pig

The second character within the name represents the time within 24 hours that regulates every single birth.

23:00 - 01:00 = 子 (zǐ)
01:00 - 03:00 = 丑 (chǒu)
03:00 - 05:00 = 寅 (yín)
05:00 - 07:00 = 卯 (mǎo)
07:00 - 09:00 = 辰 (chén)
09:00 - 11:00 = 巳 (sì)
11:00 - 13:00 = 午 (wǔ)
13:00 - 15:00 = 未 (wèi)
15:00 - 17:00 = 申 (shēn)
17:00 - 19:00 = 酉 (yǒu)
19:00 - 21:00 = 戌 (xū)
21:00 - 23:00 = 亥 (hài)

This basic information from your Chinese astrology is necessary if you ask an expert to read your fortune based on Chinese horoscope. For example, I was born on 22nd April 1980 at 8:00 pm, then calibrate this date into Chinese calendar (use lunar calendar converter)

22nd April = day 8, month 3 of lunar calendar
1980 = year of monkey
8:00 pm = 戌 (xū)

Thus, my lunar birthday is in the 3rd month day 8th. So, tell me what your lunar birthday is!

History of Twelve Chinese Zodiacs

A translation from: http://www.nongli.com/item1/shxwh/sxgs-1.htm

Long time ago, everything was so chaotic on earth. The king of heaven ordered one of the God called Tài Bái Jīn Xīng (太白金星) to establish 12 zodiac signs from different animals. Hence, the contest to find 12 animals to be the symbol of zodiacs was begun and announced on earth.

On a fine day, cat was fishing when suddenly a magpie, the bird, appeared and told him about this contest. Then the cat went back home excitedly. Arriving home, he found that mouse, his servant, was still doing the house work. Cat confidently told mouse that he would win the zodiac contest and become one of important zodiacs that rule lives on earth. He ordered the mouse to register him for the contest.

On the way to find the place for registration, he met monkey who discouraged him not to go there because the queue had already been too crowded. The mouse insisted him to tell the way to go to the temple to register his master. Monkey then told him the direction to go to the temple***

>>>At this time, there had been 8 animals that have registered for the contest, they were: dragon, tiger, cow, monkey, pig, chicken, snake, and dog.

Fox was the next turn talking to the interviewer. He said that he never done any crime and always behaved well, when just suddenly the rabbit interrupted “Fox should not be allowed to participate in this contest because he is very bad, stealing duck’s eggs couple days ago.” Rabbit’s protest was also supported by the horse which made fox left the place without being registered for the contest.

>>>Then 3 more animals had been registered: rabbit, horse, and goat.

Mouse eventually arrived at the place and had a queue behind the elephant. Looking at a long queue, he was a bit panicky. He told elephant, “I come here to register my master…Can I jump into your back to see how long will the queue be to get into my turn”. Sarcastically, the elephant said “Who the hell you are you bloody small thing want to jump into my body”. Hearing what elephant had said, mouse angrily bit his toe. As the response, elephant tried to step him violently. Mouse was too quick to avoid, and he hid himself inside the elephant’s trunk. The elephant then felt itchy on his trunk, thus he sneezed abruptly, throwing the mouse far away toward the registration desk.

At this moment, the owl was just going to sign the registration form, which would be the last form, when just suddenly the mouse landed on the form and pictured his feet as the signature on the form. The interviewer asked him, “What are you coming for?” Just before he said that he was going to register his master, he suddenly had another thought. Thinking to be one of important zodiacs would be a great idea. “I want to register for the contest on behalf of my self” he said.

Owl was extremely angry and initiated to snatch the mouse. Mouse carefully avoided it. Unfortunately, owl’s craw hit the interviewer’s face. The interviewer then punched the owl back, hitting owl’s face. Good chance for the mouse to escape. The mouse bowed to the interviewer who was so upset. “Ok…the last form, I give it to you” said the interviewer to the mouse.

The long queue was then dismissed. To each 12 animals that had been registered, by tomorrow, they must arrive in the heaven palace. The order of zodiac signs would be awarded based on the order of arrival, whoever would arrive first will be placed as the 1st zodiac sign, and so on***

Back home, mouse saw cat eating and drinking happily. “Yes, I have registered your name” mouse said when the cat asked about it. How happy the cat was, he then let mouse together with him ate the fish he had caught. Cat got drunk. When he was conscious, mouse had left home. The owl came to cat’s house and told everything about what mouse had done. Cat was mad and tried to chase the mouse.

Mouse came over to rabbit’s place to ask for protection. But rabbit was too afraid to deal with cat, so he refused mouse to stay in his house.

Mouse continued running, he saw cow that was still farming. Cow saw mouse behaving nervously. “You must have done any crime” he said to the mouse. “No, cow brother, I was confused as the cat has been rushing to the temple of heaven while you were still here.” What mouse had said made cow rushing to start his journey. “Cow brother, can you take me too? I really want to see this contest…it must be such a great event, too bad to miss it!” Cow let the mouse jump onto his back. And they started the journey together***

Fox wanted revenge to the rabbit. He got an idea, bringing some food and wine to tiger, and told him that rabbit said something bad about him. Tiger then immediately went to seek rabbit for an explanation. Rabbit tried to calm him down and explained that fox told lies. Tiger believed more to what rabbit had said. However, he was still emotionally unstable; he then ordered rabbit to spy other contestants whether or not they had started their journey.

Rabbit agreed and worked on it. Soon he knew that chicken was still at home, busy with his make up; dog and pig were chatting. Arriving at cow’s house, cow’s wife told him that her husband has left to the temple. Reporting this to tiger, both of them were also in rush to begin their journey as well. Fox saw rabbit running, he chased rabbit and bit rabbit’s long tail. Fox got the tail; however, rabbit with a shorter tail can run faster and faster leaving the fox***

It was a beautiful sunset time. Goat was watering flowers when suddenly cow passing and stepping on goat’s flower garden. Not a good situation! However, mouse quickly suggested cow to pay an amount of money for the damage. “Don’t waste time for this as the most important thing is to keep moving to reach the temple as soon as possible.” Cow agreed and goat was also ok with it. After a while, tiger passed by his house then also rabbit did. Goat suddenly realized that those animals had started their journey for the contest. He then told horse to begin the journey immediately.

>>>Fox passed by duck’s place. He blamed his bad day to the duck. Fox was just going to destroy duck’s house. Luckily, the horse which passed by the duck’s house saw fox’s nasty behaviour and with one kick knocked the fox out.

Cow and mouse had already entered the jungle, they got lost. Mouse then climbed up a tree to see the direction and told the cow the correct path. Cow let the mouse sat on his back when he swam crossing the big river. After a while, tiger also crossed to river. Rabbit used dried wood as a boat. Horse and goat also successfully crossed the river***

Sunrise in the following day, chicken, dog, and pig started their journey. Snake passed by their house, asking for a ride, but was rejected by the pig. So the snake continued moving on his trip with his own effort. Chicken, dog, and pig arrived in the river. Chicken and dog had a little argue about how to find a way to cross the river, while the pig tried to find other place to cross the river. Chicken and dog didn’t notice that pig went to find another spot to swim; they thought that the pig had already crossed the river. Thus, chicken was in rush to jump into the river. However, chicken can’t swim well. Luckily, the dog helped him by holding his wing. Pig also found a better spot that enabled him to cross the river.

Snake eventually arrived in the river side. Realizing that he can’t swim, he had an idea to ask help from the dragon who lived inside the river. He saw turtle, his own ancestral relative. He asked turtle to call the dragon inside the river to help him crossing the river. The dragon was awake. Both turtle and snake praised dragon’s power. Dragon was overly flattered, so he helped snake crossing the river. Dragon showed his power to create strong rain which eventually caused flooding. Therefore, the God came to warn him, advising him to ask cow’s help as cow had an ability to dig drainage to over come flooding. He immediately flew to find the cow. On the way, he met chicken, dog, and pig, and asked them whether they met cow. The dog lied by telling him the opposite direction. Dragon directly flew to the direction pointed by the dog. Chicken was disappointed on dog’s attitude; then chicken and dog had an argument again.

Monkey so far was in the first place, sitting on the big tree. The magpie asked him why he was still sitting there instead of going to the temple. Monkey said, “No need to rush, I want to do my business first selling fruit to other animals who passed this way.”

Cat passed by, and was offered to eat some fruit. Cat ate some fruits, but then left the place without paying. “Hey, this is not for free” shouted monkey. But cat misunderstood the offering. He thought it was monkey’s hospitality to offer him some fruits. He didn’t want to pay. Monkey slapped him violently till he dropped***

Cow and mouse passed by monkey’s stall, and were also offered some fruit. But mouse suggested cow to keep moving on as they can eat fruits on the way back home. Tiger, rabbit, horse, and goat consecutively took a rest in monkey’s fruit shop. Only snake didn’t stop there as he realized that his ability was least among others to reach the temple***

After some time searching a long way path, dragon realized that he had been cheated by the dog. He directly went to cow’s house. Cow’s wife told him that he had been heading to the temple. He then directly flew to the temple***

Cow finally arrived in the temple of heaven. Just before entering the gate, mouse with a rapid movement jumped from cow’s back and quickly entered the gate, then followed by the cow. The guard of the heaven gate loudly announced, “Number 1. mouse…, number 2. cow...”

Knowing that the little mouse was the 1st winner, the God wasn’t so pleased. Yet, the God still awarded him the golden robe with the label "子" (zǐ) on it, and cow was with the label "丑" (chǒu).

Cow realized that he had been used by his buddy. Mouse said “Cow brother, thank you for your help. I’ve never believed that this dream comes true.” Cow was eventually accepted the situation as he realized that together with the mouse, his journey was more efficient. Without his help, he might not be able to arrive at the temple earlier than other animals***

Monkey was still waiting for the last animals, chicken, dog, and pig. As usual, monkey persuaded them to take a rest and eat some fruit in his stall. Suddenly, the magpie came and told all of them that mouse and cow had arrived in the temple and been awarded the zodiac robes.

Hearing this news, they all got shocked and directly ran to the temple. Chicken was half running half flying. Dog was in his high speed. Monkey was jumping from branch to branch, which made his money pocket felt down, thus the whole money he collected also dropped to the ground. It was only the pig who kept walking unhurried while collecting the fallen money from monkey’s pocket***

The animals arrived based on the order were: mouse, cow, tiger, rabbit, dragon, snake, horse, goat, monkey, chicken, dog, and pig.

>>>Knowing that mouse was successful to reach the temple and became the 1st winner of the zodiac contest, both cat and owl committed, that during the day, cat will kill all mice, and at night, owl will be responsible to eradicate mouse and his descendants.

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>Hence, till today, the order of 12 Chinese zodiacs is fixed forming a 12 year cycle: mouse, cow, tiger, rabbit, dragon, snake, horse, goat, monkey, chicken, dog, and pig.

(See also my other essay regarding the complete name of each zodiac)

>The legend also tells us how rabbit has short tail; how cats and owls are main enemies of mice; but of course, it’s all based on the Chinese tale.

Many thanks to Jiangyang for the help