Gentleman, to be or not to be? A Chaotic Phenomena in China

Here some experience about "chaotic phenomena" I've had during my one year stay in China.

Problem with queueing

• At the bus stop where there is no queueing line. Soon after the bus comes, no matter what, just try to get as fast as you can to get into the bus. No need to worry about who the person is behind you, no matter an elderly or an old woman with lots of shopping bags in her hands. No need to give lady first. Just keep pushing your body into the bus, otherwise you'll regret!
• Queuing in the supermarket cashier. The problem here is mostly dealing with the old women and grannies. They just don't know how to queue, or I must say that they pretend to stand up beside the queue and not from the back, just by any chance, to intrude the queue. Here dealing with this situation, you must strictly tell her, "Queue from the back!" Such an old woman!

Hospitality only to the one you know

Someone got into the bus faster and he got a seat already. While an old granny or grandpa standing beside him, no more seat left, he just didn't care about it, kept enjoying reading his messages and playing with his cellphone.

He might offer his seat to his girl friend only (or his colleague only), while the old person is, "Not my problem, I don't give a damn"... ^#%#^%$!!

An "equality" to speak up among male and female?

Yes, by showing that they have the same right to have a quarrel inside the hospital. Can you believe this??? At that time, I was having an infusion in a room with other patients. Then a young male around 20ieth, who was apparently to be a patient, suddenly had an argue with a woman. It was such a sharp loud annoying voice inside the hospital, screaming each other between him and the woman for about 30 minutes, pointing finger directly towards the face of each other. GREAT! I guess all patient will get well very soon!

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Would all above phenomena happens only in an overly populated country like China? I used to have a discussion with my Chinese friend. Well, he said: big population, hard economic condition, pushing all people to do the law of "who is fast, who is successful". Of course as the positive consequence, this situation makes all Chinese successful to run a business. Lots of Chinese carry on a business successfully due to "fast working" attitude to any aspect.

However, the impact were all chaotic phenomena above. All people want to be fast in such wrong chaotic ways: intruding a queue, entering the bus sarcastically, and so on.

First time in China, I tried to give way to an elderly to enter the bus. However, other persons from behind started complaining me telling me to get faster! and I got pushed from the back.

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I am just wondering how this phenomena can be reduced. The Olympic Games 2008 will be held in Beijing. Now, all TV stations in China advertise how to be a "civilized culture" to welcome foreigners for the Olympic Games. The sequence of advertisement shows how to give way, how to be patient to queue, how to be a gentleman, how to care about each other. But, is it possible with huge numbers of people to reach such an ideal condition? I guess it's very difficult.

However, I hope through the Olympic Games 2008, there will be an improvement to be a more civilized culture, a less chaotic phenomena. Even if only a little closer change to the advertised-like ideal situation, it will makes the condition in China much much better. I do hope the coming Olympic Games 2008 will open their mind, will raise a more "gentleman" attitude through their self awareness. Then China will be a much better country!

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Dedicated to Naneto, many thanks for teaching me the "attitude"